What is Relational Effectiveness?
Relational effectiveness skills can help you to build and maintain healthy relationships while maintaining your self-respect and getting your needs met. There are 3 core relational skills in DBT: GIVE, FAST, and DEAR MAN.
GIVE reminds us to be gentle, maintain interest, validate others, and maintain an easy manner when we want to build relationships with others.
FAST helps us maintain our self-respect in our relationships through being fair, apology-free, sticking to our values, and being truthful.
DEAR MAN helps us to get our needs met when something isn't sitting well with us; in these situations we can describe the issue, express our feelings, assert what we want, and reinforce our relationships while being mindful, acting confident, and negotiating until we reach an even ground.
In the worksheets provided below, choose a skill to focus on applying to a relationship that is important to you. Reflect and write down what you would do or say in order to practice these skills.